This is a question I hear people asking every day.
People come back with a variety of answers, family, money, health, location and much more.
The truth is we all have our own answers, of course we do, our happiness is an individual feeling. True, others might feel a form of happiness by seeing us happy, but deep down its very personal.
I’m sometimes viewed as quite a big, serious, often intimidating looking guy, but those who know me, know I am a real softy. I do and have cried on many occasions.
Tears of sadness but mainly tears of joy. I love a happy ending and have cried at many a film. Just ask my wife.
Yes I’m a big tough martial artist and I cry. There I said it.
I feel happy when a number things happen.
When my daughter smiles at me, when my wife gives me a cuddle, all the things to do with my family and close friends make me smile and feel happy.
However, it’s not been until recently when I’ve made significant changes in my life that I feel I’ve discovered true personal happiness.
Since focusing on my health and improving my sleep, I’m on the way to trying to eliminate all the stress from my life and that is making me feel happy.
Not a short term, spur of the moment happiness, but a long term feeling that starts as soon as I wake up.
Going to work makes me happy because I’m removing the stress from the it. Doing tasks at home make me happy, not only because of the sense of achievement but also because I don’t get stressed.
I guess what I’m saying is that having no or little stress, makes me happy. This is a long term feeling for me, one that is there every day.
This new found, deep down happiness also allows me to share my feelings with others that are close to me.
Spreading the happiness so to speak. Which in turn can make others feel happy. A domino effect.
Here’s another way to look at it and play with this one in your head for a while before answering.
What makes you unhappy and can you do anything to change that?
If you can, then go do it.
Ps. Just because you are not always smiling, doesn’t mean you are not happy. I’m just pretty crap at smiling in photos.